Power. We all have it. But somewhere along the way, many of us have given it away—sometimes in tiny, almost imperceptible ways, and sometimes in big, life-altering moments. The problem? When we give our power away, we slip into victim mode. We feel helpless, stuck, and at the mercy of life’s circumstances instead of standing in our truth and making empowered choices.
The good news? You can take your power back. And while it’s not always a one-and-done process, recognizing where you’ve given it away is the first step toward reclaiming it.
How We Give Our Power Away
We often hand over our power without even realizing it. Here are some common ways:
Seeking External Validation – When we need others to approve of our choices before we feel confident in them, we allow them to dictate our self-worth.
Fear of Discomfort or Conflict – Avoiding difficult conversations or making choices based on keeping the peace rather than what’s true for us.
Blaming Others for Our Circumstances – When we believe life is just “happening” to us, we lose the ability to see our role in shaping our reality.
People-Pleasing – Saying yes when we want to say no, overextending ourselves, or making choices to avoid disappointing others.
Ignoring Our Intuition – When we silence our inner knowing in favor of logic, societal expectations, or what others think we “should” do.
Holding Onto the Past – Whether it’s past trauma, regret, or resentment, staying stuck in old stories keeps us from stepping into our power now.
Placing Power in the Hands of Outside Forces – When we allow fear, division, and external policies to dictate our emotions, actions, or belief in what’s possible for us, we relinquish control over our personal sovereignty.
Expecting Others to Fix Our Lives – We don’t just give our power away when bad things happen to us. We also do it when we believe someone else—whether it’s a partner, a boss, a friend, or an institution—holds the key to our happiness or success. When we place our fulfillment in someone else’s hands, we disconnect from our ability to create it for ourselves.
Signs You’ve Given Your Power Away
Not sure if you’ve handed over your power? Here are some clues:
You feel drained, resentful, or exhausted after interactions with certain people.
You struggle to make decisions without consulting others first.
You feel like life is happening to you rather than you creating it.
You say, “I have to” instead of “I choose to.”
You feel like you’re constantly waiting—for permission, for the “right” time, for someone else to change.
How to Start Taking Back Your Power
Taking your power back is about reclaiming ownership of your life, choices, and energy. Here’s how:
1. Recognize Where You’ve Given It Away
Awareness is the first step. Look at where you’re feeling powerless, resentful, or stuck. Ask yourself: Where am I waiting for someone else to give me permission? Where am I prioritizing others’ needs over my own truth?
2. Set Boundaries Without Guilt
No is a full sentence. Protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being by setting clear boundaries. If someone gets upset, it’s a sign that they benefited from you not having them in the first place.
3. Take Responsibility for Your Life
This doesn’t mean blaming yourself for things outside of your control, and it doesn’t mean that bad things won’t happen to us. But it does mean choosing how we respond. Instead of saying, “I have no choice,” reframe it: What choices do I have here? No matter what life throws our way, we can stand in our power and refuse to let circumstances dim our light or harm our true essence.
4. Trust Your Inner Knowing
Your intuition is your inner compass. Start small—practice listening to your gut on little decisions, and over time, trusting yourself will become second nature.
5. Speak Your Truth
No more shrinking, silencing, or sugarcoating. Whether it’s expressing your needs, stating your boundaries, or owning your desires—your voice matters.
6. Limit External Noise
In today’s world, we are bombarded with news, social media, and external influences that often instill fear, anxiety, and division. Be mindful of how much time you spend consuming news and scrolling through social media. Consider setting boundaries around media consumption by:
Designating News-Free Periods – Limit your intake to once a day or even every few days.
Curating Your Feed – Follow accounts that inspire and uplift you rather than those that fuel fear or division.
Taking Digital Detoxes – Step away from screens periodically to reconnect with yourself and your real-life experiences.
7. Stop Waiting
There is no perfect time. No one is coming to rescue you. If you’re waiting for life to magically shift, ask yourself: What is one small step I can take today to create the life I want?
This Is a Journey, Not a One-Time Fix
Reclaiming your power isn’t about flipping a switch and suddenly being done with it. It’s a process. There are layers to unravel, wounds to heal, and patterns to shift. And some days, you’ll slip back into old habits—but each time you choose yourself, each time you stand in your truth, you get stronger.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, you don’t have to do it alone. Reach out for support—whether it’s through coaching, community, or sacred ceremonies. You deserve to stand fully in your power, and the world needs you to.
Your power is yours to claim. Will you take it back?
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